Hold back when you have an opinion.
Suppress your urge to say no.
Become a habitual apologizer.
These are all People Pleaser habits.
Like most, I am also guilty of People Pleasing.
I’d feel bad about asking for repayment of a loan. I’d be terrified to speak up in a meeting.
I was afraid to say no when asked to do things I really didn’t want to.
These are not acts of kindness. They are symptoms of a much larger issue.
Our eagerness to please is a manifestation of our low self esteem and self worth; It’s a spotlight that highlights our lack of confidence. This habit only gets worse the longer it’s left unchecked.
If your looking for ways to up your A game, you need to get your people pleasing impulse in check. Because it’s not a good look. The very people you hope to impress will be turned off. They’ll be unimpressed.
But all is not lost. You can reign in this self sabotaging habit by building up your self confidence. It’s not as terrifying as you think. Just start slowly by taking small steps.
Say no to something small. Speak up about something simple that you have a strong opinion about and don’t apologize for it.
Remember, trying to be all things to all people will stifle your ability to reach your goals. You’ll stay stuck. Start building up your mental strength so that you can begin to create the kind of life you want to live.
What is your signature ‘go to’ people pleasing habit?
What small steps are you going to take to build up your confidence and break this habit?
